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If you have learned about Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) in a book, or you have received formalised training in NLP, it is always valuable improving your NLP skills. If you incorporate NLP skills into your everyday life, you give yourself more choices about how you live your life. In effect, it gives you the tools and practices to improve your relationships, your interaction with others and to be outstanding in whatever you intend to accomplish.

The topic of this article is resource states, as talked about in the context of NLP skills. Consider that you were able to feel however you want to feel any time you want, and it is really as effortless as clicking your fingers. Just how great would that be!

There are most likely numerous situations when you would prefer to be in more effective control of your feelings, but as yet you have not been able to become expert in this skill. You will possibly identify with those who experience stage fright. Even thinking about it in advance, we can turn ourselves into nervous wrecks. Our imaginations run riot as we revisit all the other occasions when we have felt stressed, and then they amplify all those negative feelings, safe in the certainty that it is bound to happen again. And thus, it is somewhat a self-fulfilling phophecy.

You can see from the example that we actually practise getting into negative resource states, such as feeling nervous, on a regular basis. Despite the fact that these states are not particularly useful, we evidently know well the practice of state induction and there is no reason why we should not apply the same process to bring on good resource states.

Given your previously exhibited skill at resource state induction, how would you prefer to feel instead of afraid? You would most likely like to be calm and confident. There have probably been a lot of additional situations when you have encountered these feelings before. Simply sit back and think back to when you last felt peaceful and confident. Perhaps it was yesterday or perhaps years ago. Evoke everything about it, from how you was standing, how you were breathing, how you felt, what you noticed and what you heard back then.

Now, if you are imagining that you can’t do this because you have never felt this way before, then picture how somebody who is calm and confident would stand, breathe and feel. Possibly this is somebody you admire for being this way. You may have noticed that sometimes that there little things that trigger memories and all the associated feelings you experienced at the time. Maybe, it is someone giving you a slap on the back that reminds you of how you felt when your father gave you a congratulatory one upon your passing an exam, or perhaps a whiff of a certain perfume brings to mind a romantic dance. These triggers are known as anchors, and as one of your NLP skills, you can choose an appropriate anchor and integrate it into the resource state that you are working on. So, you need to make your chosen state as big and bold as you can and then build in an anchor, such as scratching the tip of your nose. Then, whenever you do this action again, it will bring back the feelings of the resource state automatically.

You are almost certainly now acknowledging the value of practising the NLP skills of generating resource states and anchoring. These are NLP techniques that you can apply to all areas of your life. Of course, the beauty of perfecting these skills is that the ensuing states will significantly strengthen your communication skills and have a positive influence on the other people that you come into contact with.

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