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Fighting your instincts may be the first step in figuring out how to get your ex girlfriend back. If you have recently split up or been broken up for awhile and just can’t stop thinking about her then instinct may have been a barrier.

When we talk about going against your instincts it means tempering desperate thoughts and keeping panic under control. In many break ups and when one person is on the receiving end the natural reaction is to fight back screaming and yelling and just acting in an ugly way.

This doesn’t just happen at the initial break up and can continue on for some time. It’s no way to start the wheels in motion to attract your ex girlfriend back into your life. In fact, you will push her further away.

It’s time for some counter intuitive thinking and we’ve got five suggestions for you that will help in this article. These tips are straight from the most important book ever written in relationship make up, The Magic Of Making Up.

How To Get My Ex Girlfriend Back

- One of the first instincts you need to fight against is the instinct to yell and scream at your ex at every opportunity. Sure you are hurt and want them to know how you feel but seriously, pout yourself in their shoes…would you want to take you back behaving like that?

- To get your ex girlfriend back, act in a happy frame of mind. When you see her be upbeat and be civil with her. This is confusing behavior and will get her thinking. It’s not what she expected and the respect meter for you will rise. This is what you want.

- Return her things. There is an inclination for many people to want to hang onto things because it could be a vindictive move or by hanging onto them it gives them something to hang onto of the ex and they may pop around or call to come and pick it up.

- Don’t force the issue with your ex girlfriend. Don’t demand that you get back together or let them know how it’s going to be. This won’t work and will push her further away. Letting things re-develop naturally is best. Even being scarce will get the curiosity juices going.

- Give them the space they need. If they dumped you there was a reason and one of them was they didn’t want you in their life right at this time for whatever reason. So give them enough time to miss you. This is key in figuring out how to get an ex girlfriend back.

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