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According to studies, the success of couples counseling in Reston, VA is evaluated in four factors. The client’s power for growth and self-healing accounts for forty percent of the success. Every person has strengths and resources; these may include beliefs, values, feelings, skills, knowledge, experience, abilities, relational capacity, and many others. An effective therapy is therefore, one that’ll help clients appropriate their resources. Dr. Durana emphasizes that what has worked rather than what has failed it, brings out strengths, competencies, and resources. By assuming that we can change most easily from a position of strength, not failure, problem solving is facilitated and self-esteem enhanced. By looking at what is right with people, what works or has worked for them in the past and by identifying assets in what people say and do, peoples’ capacity for healing and change can be supported.

Many forms of therapy focus on the following: what’s wrong with the person (pathologizing), what is the hidden cause of the problem, what should be done to fix it. Although sometimes useful, Dr. Durana has found that this approach has many disadvantages. A person who is referred to as “relationship-phobic,” may not be fully understood and may even become defensive. Dr. Durana believes that a person is much more than a label. In the above case, it is therefore more relevant to say that the individual may have difficulty relating to other people because of past disappointments. Thinking in this manner can then promote self-understanding, self-acceptance and self-love. This manner of thinking truly helps clients avoid getting into the rut. What is of utmost importance is how we think about what goes on with ourselves and with others.

While it is important to know what has not worked before, it’s more practical to focus on what has worked (e.g. when were we at our best). Dr. Durana’s approach facilitates self-discovery, personal responsibility, personal control and problem solving. This approach allows people to utilize their ability to uncover resources and directions for growth in life and respects their personal worth, competence and lovability.

Dr. Durana holds that it is the job of the counselor to help the client uncover their resources and potential for growth, and to provide the conditions under which effective couples counseling in Reston, VA can take place, but it is the client that makes therapy work, not the therapist’s or that of the specific approach.

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